I was never meaning to write this post. But I got messages asking how I control my nerves in emergency situations. How to stay strong in bad situation? What is my formula of handling an unexpected situation and still holding my ground. To be honest, it is not that easy. But if you think life would be easy and simple then you have to change your angle now. As we grow older, we have to face different kinds of difficult situations. We can’t avoid such situations as they are unavoidable but we can learn to deal with them.
11 Ways to Stay Strong in Bad Situations
I am sharing my tips to control the nerves and not panic too much
1)- Accept the situation
The more you remain in the state of denial. The more painful it becomes. Accept that the emergency has happened. And there is no way that you can reverse the situation. The moment you accept it becomes the moment your mind starts working on finding the solution . Yon can learn to stay strong the minute you accept the situation.
2)- Don’t hold your emotions back
Even after you accept the situation you can feel pained. If you feel over-whelmed, don’t hold it back. Do whatever helps you. Cry it out loud in private or surround yourself with friends and family and tell them about your pain.
3)- Think about the solution
Start thinking about the best course of action or the solution to the problem. Critically think. Measure your circumstances. If you don’t find a solution, I suggest you to read other people stories online. When you come to know what other people are suffering the same way you are and they find a solution. Your faith boosts up a little more than before.
4)- Don’t listen to every-body
People love giving free pieces of advice. They will keep on giving them. Listen to all of them but do only what you think is right. Your relatives or friends can not think the way you can about your situation. So it is you who need to decide what’s best for you and your family.
5)- Don’t be rude with people who help
In difficult times, when we are undergoing a trauma already. Sometimes we fail to appreciate that how much the people around you who come up and meet & greet matter. How much social connectivity matters. So always be very thankful. Be very expressive and tell them how grateful you are for them standing beside you in your testing time.
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6)- Believe, Believe, Believe
If you are a believer, it becomes a lot easier to make your peace in any situation. Because you believe that there is someone above you, greater than you and everything. And that if a tragedy has fallen upon you HE shall be with you and you won’t be left alone.
I am going to quote an ayah from Al-Quran here.
“So Verily with the Hardship, there is Relief.
Verily with the Hardship, there is Relief.”
Reference: ( Al Quran 94: 5-6)
Translation in Urdu: Beshak Her Mushkil k sath Asani hai.
Faith is strength, simply.
7)- Self-confidence is the Key.
Trust in yourself. Know that only you can do something for yourself. No one else is ever going to come and save you. Its you and only you. Be confident. Take charge of the situation and be confident about it. Don’t strain your nerves. Know that you can do anything.
8)- Don’t wallow in self-pity
In a tragic situation, it is very easy to fall in this dark hole of self-pity.
why am I always in trouble?
No, No, No. You are certainly not the only one. It is just that you don’t know everyone’s circumstances so well. You don’t know their struggles. So, don’t do this. Think about yourself and not others. Others have got problems too and they are certainly not thinking about you or you or problems.
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9)- Dealing with harsh-people
While there are so many nice people in the world. There are always those who are usually very harsh and don’t treat you with the sympathy you think you deserve to be treated with. Don’t be rude to them. Done fight with them. While you undergo some tragedy, you might feel helpless or angry. Don’t let that anger consume you. Be patient. Just know that it might not be a very good time for you but it is definitely going to pass.
10)- Ask for help
No matter what. If you need help. Just ask for it. Don’t hold back. You can’t do everything alone. Having help can ease your suffering. Talk to your family and friends. When they are not available due to some reasons then get help from an expert like a psychologist or therapist.
11)- Make dua
Make dua that You be given the strength to pass the trial period in your life. Dua motivates, it gives hope. I am going to share my favorite dua below. It is well-known as “Ayat-Karima”. You can try this one just to stay strong or go for any dua you have in your heart deep-down. Just know that God knows what you really need and he will ease your sufferings. All you have to do is to pray and ask for His Help.
My 5 Favorite Stay Strong Quotes
I am going to share my favorite stay strong quotes that help you maintain focus on the solution, instead of the bad situation you are facing.
Stay strong, be brave, love hard and true, and you will have nothing to lose.
Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.
There’s so many things that life is, and no matter how many breakthroughs, trials will exist and we’re going to get through it. Just be strong.
Build up your weaknesses until they become your strong points.
If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.
This is all I could think of right now. I practice this in my life. These tips have groomed me and helped me stay strong no matter how bad the situation is. They can help you groom your inner-selves too. And when life throws a difficult situation at you, you know exactly what you are capable of and how you can handle everything more easily.
Do you have your own way of dealing with bad situation? Feel free to share.
All the best. Have a really safe and good day.